“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.”
We all grew up believing this children’s rhyme. Yet, at a certain point, we realized that was completely untrue and that words can gladden hearts and touch souls just as much as they can bruise and agonize them.
Our lives are made up of words. And words are powerful as they can lift us up or break us down. Spoken words can touch our hearts and souls. Even those words we read on a page can change our lives drastically.
Words have the power to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.. Words literally have the power to change our lives…
Over time, I’ve come to learn that the lack of words can equally tear souls apart. When we withhold words, we’re denying their power and disempowering those we leave in the wreckage of those unspoken words.
Sometimes it hurts just as much to have those difficult words withheld “I’m sorry. I’m leaving. Goodbye.” as it is to have the precious ones kept from us “I love you. I miss you. I need you.”
What we have to say might sound like any of these words or none of these, and maybe our situation is so deep that we don’t feel like we have any words to express ourselves. I’ve been there, and I know what it is to feel so hollow that there are no words left to say.
Yet when words aren’t spoken, they leave a terrible emptiness in their wake. And in that emptiness, insecurities flood in: the doubt, the anger, the grief and all “whys.”
So using the power of words, we free ourselves and each other when we find the courage to speak our truth and honor our own feelings while recognizing that our truth and feelings aren’t the only ones in play.
Considering the ‘powerful force’ of the words we utter, we must discipline ourselves to speak in a way that conveys respect, gentleness and humility.
After all, we must never leave stories unfinished or words unspoken, and most importantly, we must never underestimate the power of words.
- The Power Of Words: How Words Impact Your Life by Katherine Hurst
- The Power of Words by Barbara A Jaffe
- The Power of Spoken Words by HuffPost (Dec 15, 2014)